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Hey TPJays, how are you doing? Happy new week. I have teamed up with Ivy Barber Ng to do this giveaway, you guys showed me so much love on my previous post here and I appreciate all the love. Hence, one lucky TPJay stands a chance of winning a pair of Ivy Barber slippers (size 39/40).

Here are the rules to enter the giveaway:
  • You need to be following me (@thepurplejournal_) and @ivy_barberng.
  • You need to tag one person you think would be interested in this giveaway. 
  • In a comment on my Instagram tell me The Purple Journal's motto (Hint: can be found in the about page).

This giveaway is Nationwide! Winners would be announced on the 23rd of April 2018 and contacted via Instagram.

Goodluck to everyone participating. Wishing you a happy week. Thanks for stopping by! Cheers!!

This giveaway has ended.
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Anti Boys or Nah??

Hey guys, today we are doing something entirely different, this should be fun. I thought it would be interesting talking about boys and relationships on the blog. I am not anti boys I love them so much that's probably why I get so stressed when anything about them comes up.

Warning: Lengthy so grab something to snack on!!!

Okay let's first start with relationships; I have a few questions for people in relationships; are you both compatible? What attracts you to your partner? Is it the opposite attraction or birds of the same feather? For me it's majorly our similarity but we'd definitely have our differences too and that's fine. I would like to classify the thing that make or break relationships into 2p's and 2v's which are; personalities, principles, values and vision. In my opinion you should talk about all four before getting into a relationship so y'll know what you are in for.

Personalities: These are your characteristics and what makes you you. Your personalities most definitely affects your relationship but it is up to you both to get the positive side of it or the negative side. Your personalities determine the quality of your relationship. Most times couples have different personalities and that's okay because some difference strengthens and spices the relationship. Variety is needed sometimes.

Principles: This can be simplified to your beliefs. For me it is important we have similar principles and beliefs.  For example i won't be in a relationship with someone that does not believe in God that's a no no.

Values: This is basically standards of behaviors, it includes your ethics, morals e.t.c. In order words the things you rate highly are your values. Your values determine how you view life in general. In my opinion couples values should be somewhat similar. Being clear about your values and what you stand for is really important when you are in a relationship. If you and your partner view life differently, clashes are bound to happen.

Vision: This is the ability to think about or plan your future. You'd not see me with someone with zero vision. When it comes to vision we have to be on the same page, there are no two ways to this one. If you guys do not have similar vision just keep in mind that your relationship has an expiration date.

Relationships are not meant to be stressful so if it is stressing you its is not right.

Now let's move to boys.
  • If he stresses you cut him off.
  • If he makes you double guess yourself drop him.
  • If he just wants to benefit from your goodness but does not want to put in any effort tell him boy bye.
It is easy to cut him off when no feelings are attached, that's why it is wise not to catch feelings immediately because it is usually a trap. Yeah I know it is not easy but you can do it. You don't need no stress but peace of mind.

Guys that do not respect you are going to keep disrespecting you if you don't shut it down as soon as you notice it. You notice he is disrespecting you tell him before you make a decision, if he does not changing just walk away. Talk it out because in actual sense you need to show people how to treat you meaning if you are being treated in a way you do not like you accepted it from the onset.

It's 2018 and we are all adults so we can all come to the conclusion that boys just want to hit most of the time. And there is no problem with that in all honesty because there are girls that just want to hit too. But some boys  need to watch how desperate they act when they want to hit because sometimes it comes across as rape culture. I won't shake this table today. As for me if all you want is to hit and that's all you have to offer then you and I don't have any business being in a relationship be it 'friends with benefit', 'situation-ship' whatever you want to call it.

We women are too caring we need to stop caring for men way too much especially if they do not give back the same energy. I might be wrong but all men do is take! They take everything from you leaving you drained physically, mentally, financially, emotionally and all the lly you can think of but they never give back and that's sad. Funny thing is you do not realize they are draining you until you walk away. They just take advantage of your caring nature, i am not you mum boy. They always take advantage of everything.

I am sorry not sorry I am putting myself first, my happiness first, my peace of mind first, my everything first. I deserve all the love and care I dish out.

This one is for girls that have been single for so long sometimes you feel you have been alone for a long time and you just allow the next Tom, Dick or Harry into your life. That's a wrong move sis. No matter how long you have been single ensure to wait for someone that'd treat you right, the wait would be worth it.

At this point i think it is safe for me to say men should leave me alone I am tired. So are you anti-boys or nah? What is your take on boys and relationships? Drop a comment let's have a conversation.

Thanks for stopping by!! Cheers!!!
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Book Review || Dating Game

Hey guys, so here is another book review and I hope you like this one. This book is relatable and the book was easy to read.

So in this woman's mind she had the perfect marriage, with the perfect husband and two beautiful grown up children. Until the day her husband decided to come out, he told her he was seeing someone after 24 years of marriage. He was willing to throw everything they had in 24 years because he met someone younger can you imagine? That news was really hard for Paris to take in.

Paris was my favorite character can't really tell why maybe it's because she was the center of the book. Life came at her so fast, even though she did not know how to handle all the hurt initially, but her hurt turned to happiness at the end. She handled the situation the way i'd have handled it i think.

My favorite part was when she finally made up her mind to adopt a baby, she did that for herself not caring about what other people thought. You can learn a lesson from that move, do what makes you happy regardless of other peoples opinions.

I love that Danielle Steel portrayed that you can always find better when your relationship does not work with one person. There is always better out there.

For the title I was expecting it to come from a male's angle, him being the player but it was about a woman trying the dating process all over again and it was really difficult for her because she married the first person she dated and now they were over. It was a game for her because she did not know if  she was going to lose or win reason being she thought she was too old to date again. Paris tried different men, she gave them chances even though her boss turned friend turned family (Bix) forced her most of the time. Bix and his partner were one of the people that made Paris feel at home when she newly moved in. It just showed that some times we need certain peoples friendship to get through certain situations. They were her support systems so to say.

If i could add anything to the book i'd add that Peter's new wife left him for someone else, it would have been messy but just so that people understand that you lose them how you get them.

Have you read this book? If yes what do you think of it? Would you recommend any other Danielle Steel book?

Thanks for stopping by! Cheers!!!
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Depression & Anxiety || Raduno Africa

Hey TPJays,  so I am partnering with  Raduno Africa on this one and we are fighting depression and anxiety together, you are not alone.

There is a big chance that you know someone suffering from depression or anxiety, it could even be you. Do not think you can't be depressed because you are black or African -  male or female. That's a scam anyone can be depressed. Once you notice any significant sign see a doctor or speak to a loved one.

In my opinion, both depression and anxiety come from the same place which is sadness. It is okay to be sad, it's healthy but do not dwell on the things that make you sad always remember to snap out of sadness by doing the things that make you happy. In fact treat yourself to something you have always wanted just to calm your nerves. You deserve it. "Happiness does not depend upon who you are. It solely depends on what you think" - Dale Carnegie.

Do not wallow in negativity, it builds up to depression. "Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you'll start having positive results" - Willie Nelson.

I can't really pinpoint what causes depression but here are some of the things that leads to depression; life events (the loss of a loved one, divorce, relationships, financial problems e.t.c.), personality traits (an over-thinker has a higher chance of getting depressed, a perfectionist too), drug abuse.

We all need to take our mental health seriously and learn to cut everything that tries to come for our mental health.


  • Constantly get out of depressed moods such as feeling sad, empty, hopeless.
  • Cut yourself some slack and stop pressurizing yourself.
  • Be active.
  • Don't isolate yourself (I know sometimes isolation seems to be the perfect coping mechanism but know when to be out and about and when to be in).
  • Don't punish yourself for being a bad place instead do things to cheer you up.

In conclusion, when sadness is greater than happiness it tilts towards depression and anxiety, strive to be happy all the time and remember your happiness comes first.

In order to fight depression and anxiety we need to come together, so you all really need to come out for this event. Save the date, hope to see you there.

Thanks for stopping by! Cheers!!

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Currently I Am (3)

Hey guys. What's up? How have you all been? Here's another edition of this tag. 

Currently, I am……

Missing: You. Yeah you.

Wishing: I could live alone.

Wearing: A chiffon shirt and a pencil skirt.

Listening to: Best life Cardi B ft Chance the Rapper. Damn Cardi really came through with her new album!!

Admiring: My self, I have been looking like a money bag!

Feeling: Really good, I don't even know why. 

Appreciating: How far I have come, I have come a long way in this life. It might not look like it but I definitely have.

Loving: Nothing currently.

Watching: Nothing at the moment.

Reading: The Exit.

Craving: Full English breakfast. I have been craving it for the longest time.

Not sure of: Where I am heading, I am literally still figuring my life out and it seems like it is taking forever for me to get myself together but i am learning to take it easy on myself because one day I was over thinking my future and i think i got depressed till I snapped out. So I really need to stop overthinking i mean God got my back.

Determined to: Achieve all of my dreams one by one.

Regretting: Nothing.

That’s it for today, thanks for stopping by.

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